ASK YOUR KIDS

Privacy

Now that you’re getting older, what do you want to start keeping more private?

What does having your own space or privacy mean to you right now?

What’s a time you wanted privacy but weren’t sure how to get it?

What would you say is the difference between privacy and secrecy?

If someone told you to keep a secret, how would you decide whether or not to tell a trusted adult?

Can you think of a time when something private turned into a secret that didn’t feel right? What made it cross the line?

Is there anything that feels awkward to bring up with me? What would make it easier?

How can we come up with some privacy rules that help you feel respected and keep you safe?

What helps you know whether you can trust someone?

If something ever felt weird or wrong, what would help you feel safe talking to me about it?

Has a friend ever let you down? How did you know that person wasn’t trustworthy?

What kinds of secrets do you think kids keep to avoid stirring up drama or not getting left out of the group?

What’s something you’d feel OK sharing in real life but not online—or vice versa?

Have you ever felt stuck between keeping a friend’s confidence and wanting to tell a parent? What did you do? 

What kinds of things do you think kids your age feel nervous telling their parents?

Has there ever been a time you felt like I invaded your privacy, even if I didn’t mean to?

What could I have done differently?